THE 21ST CENTURY MAN CHILD
The 21st-century man child seems to be surrounded by predicaments that are in dire need of killing his essence and existence. Justice and laws seem to protect women against men leading to what we call ‘men strike.’ Men have decided to run away from their responsibilities and others by deciding to commit suicide.
Phrases like: ‘men are dogs, hit-and-run animals, perverts, men will always be boys, a man is like a child, rapists,’ have become a painful thorn in their flesh creating a massive backlash against them.
A divorce in this century will leave the man totally bankrupt and others continue to embezzle the man’s investments for as long as he lives. Television moguls Bob Johnson and Sheila Johnson were married from 1969 to 2002, and when the couple divorced two years later, Sheila Johnson walked away with $400 million, according to ABC News. The nearly half-a-million-dollar settlement between actor Mel Gibson and Robyn Moore remains the largest Hollywood divorce payout in history. The settlement totaled half of the actor’s net worth at the time. Robyn Moore walked away with 425 million dollars. Elin Nordegren Tiger woods ex-wife walked away with $100 Million. Many divorces to sports personnel also show a staggering amount of money that is paid out to ex-wives before they say goodbye to their marriages.
When a man realizes that a divorce is beckoning they rush to the courts to declare themselves bankrupt. Others rush to change the beneficiaries of their assets and name their mothers, fathers, and siblings as the new owners in order not to be rendered paupers.
Men are raising children that don’t belong to them for the mere fact that they were present in that lady’s life way before she was pregnant. Others have been cornered by women who were in dire need of babies but not husbands. He is left to live in a miserable life where the woman’s main concern is the children and the man is left to tend to himself. The laws protect the women and hence the man cannot run away from such a predicament due to acts and bills within child support.
Many male counterparts live in relationships where women cheat and they still cannot run away from such dreadful bonds. They stay and observe as the women eat the forbidden pie from every corner of the world. A separation commenced by a man is received with a lot of bile and loathe. The entire community is always behind a woman declaring total war on the man. A man is forbidden to see his own children due to divorce and separation as if the lady bore the children by herself. A man must prove beyond any shadow of a doubt that he can be left with children after a divorce no matter what the woman did. Evidence of adultery and cheating incidents must be presented to the court to prove that he was not to blame due to separation or divorce. A man has to prove that he is morally upright, a scenario that is hard to achieve in a court that views women as pure beings.
Men are receiving a painful backlash from the same society that once adored them and cherished their existence. Where did the great men go? Where are the great husbands? Where is that man that was used to be highly responsible for their families? Where did the gentlemen go?
Men are on strike!
They realized that they are being exploited for just being men. The Bible declares them as the protectors, providers, and the head of the homes. Now those terms are the currency for their exploitation and extinction.
A woman will save 100 percent of her salary and expect the man to cater for everything in the house. When asked about her money, she will say that her cash belongs to her (mine) and the husband’s money belongs to the entire family (Us). The debate around this notion would have the man sleeping on the couch for days without his conjugal rights being honored. In most cases after messy divorces, men are left penniless and women start living like rich moguls all of a sudden utilizing what they had hidden all the while-their savings. It’s not bad to save, but do not save at the expense of not supporting your marriage in order for you to stand tall after a divorce or a separation. What about the wellbeing of that man who also sacrificed his hard-earned coin to ensure you and the children are alright?
Child support, alimony, government entitlements, divorce laws, welfare entitlements, women banks, financial aid, and women NGOs are the modern structures or realms that have been erected to ensure that a woman has a place in this society and the man’s right rendered inferior. The woman has become superior beyond our imagination. A marriage to a man is discussed based on what he can bring to the table, based on his wealth or his ambitions to achieve it. His exploitation pre-planned way before he walks on that isle.
Society sees men as rapists, perverts who defile children, women, and child abusers. Sexual harassment cases and rape incidents pin men on the wall as criminal party's’ even before proven guilty.
‘Men are sensing the backlash against them and are consciously and unconsciously going “on strike.” They are dropping out of college, out of the workforce, and out of marriage and fatherhood at alarming rates. So much so that a number of books have been written about this phenomenon in recent years that look at the “manchild” of today and summarize that he and his arrested development have taken a vacation from responsibility because he can, or because he can now get sex on demand. Or worse, these books discuss how his irresponsible behavior has harmed females since his only purpose on earth is to serve women.
Society must create incentives for men to be responsible fathers, husbands, and providers. Those abiding by these statutes must be treated with great respect and viewed the same way the women are perceived. Justice, bills, acts, and policies must also be available or created to protect men from the backlash of simply being a male in the 21st century.
More reads
Men on Strike: Why Men Are Boycotting Marriage, Fatherhood, and the American Dream — and Why It Matters by Helen Smith PhD
Christina Hoff Sommers, The War Against Boys:
How Misguided Feminism Is Harming Our Young Men, New York: Simon & Schuster, 2001.